Another Layer of Healing Today

Today I celebrate recieving my bachelors degree with my most valuable treasures-my children!

Preparing to attend my graduation reception tonight at Texas State and Kait just walked up to me and said, “I am so proud of you Mom, and I am so glad you did not graduate 20 years ago because I probably would not be here today.”
 
Those words of truth just pierced through 18 years of “a nagging little voice of condemnation” that has plagued me for not completing my bachelors degree…’and just being a mom.’
 
Oh my goodness…my original plan was to be an electrical engineer and not have any children…Can you see how God rescued me?
 
The tears keep flowing and sobs keep coming because of the pain of growing up being indoctrinated with “I can do anything and be anything I want and success is measured in degrees and wealth and titles-and women can do anything a man can do.” For nearly 50 years women have been compelled to ‘be successful’ and it causes a great divide within their own minds as they struggle with what that means in our society.
Twenty years ago I never understood the blessings of children! I gratefully thank God He intervened and worked out for my good what I considered a “failure” (not finishing my degree before having children) and gave me what I consider my most valuable treasures, my seven blessings, my children!Family_1

Discover and Empower A Child

A Humbling Video Production Day Today

Here is just a quick update on the Discover and Empower Series. The last month has been EXTREMELY difficult. I have personally been stretched further than I could possibly imagine as I have attempted to create this course. It seemed as if whatever topic I chose to share write about, empowering kindness for example-brought out the exact opposite in my own children-meanness and selfishness. We have gone into overdrive here, in the Schober home, focused on teaching kindness and respect. Although we have had many victories along the way, there seems to be many more battles that need to be won.

My biggest challenge is teaching what I am still learning myself. I know about the tools, resources and insights I have gained along the way-and yet I still sat in a heap of tears today after disciplining one of my children. I know we wrestle not against flesh and blood…and yet it seems to be the flesh and blood people I live with that can bring out the worst in me. Today I experienced deep sorrow and pain over a situation with one of my strong ‘little ones.’  And 2 hours later was video production time!!

For awhile I was tempted to reschedule…but instead, chose to keep my commitment. My perspective of Discovering and Empowering A Child was covered today with humility-as I am still battling some of the very issues I have had victories over in the past.  The tools of Discovery help.  Empowering a child is life changing.  However, it is God’s presence and wisdom-at any given time-that is the only guarantee.  I have done my best.  I have devoted my life to caring for and teaching my children.  I have spent years studying my children, finding tools and resources of discovering and empowering, and still have days that are overshadowed with doubt or concern.

In my Pursuit of Peace I have come to the place where I go to bed at night and contemplate my day and my actions as a wife and mother.  I am at peace with God.  Although I make mistakes at times, I believe God is pleased with the attention and focus I have placed on my children.  I love the good days.  Its so easy to write and share during the good times, when you feel as if you could shout your message from a mountaintop.  Today, I have chosen to write, share and create the video for Discover and Empower A Child from a place of quiet, deeper understanding-that without God’s help-everything else is just ‘words’ and is meaningless.

My prayer is that through all that I do God will get the credit He deserves.  It is only through God that I can do anything good at all.

‘Kristin’s Heart’ Again

 Kristin3 weeks ago…

I pulled out of the driveway heading toward a Classical Conversation Information Meeting when my phone rang.  My friend Debra started the conversation off by saying, “Everything is ok, I’m not calling to alarm you, but Kristin (my ten year old who was with her) was complaining of shortness of breath and had an elevated heart rate.”  Debra continued, “We just watched the first 15 minutes of Captain America  and Kristin started to really feel bad so we left the movie theater and I have her laying down in my car.”

Well my plans changed in an instant.  Lately, I continue to be reminded that ‘though a man plans his course, the Lord determines his steps’.  I went and picked up my daughter and began to assess the situation.

 

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